Once you become a mom, you are initiated into a secret group of women connected by one thing and one thing only, motherhood. It doesn’t matter if you were pregnant and gave birth or if you had a surrogate or if you adopted. Once you become a mother, you find an instant connection with a mother sitting next to you.
Mothers come in all different forms – stay at home moms, working moms, breastfeeding moms, formula-feeding moms, helicopter moms, laid-back moms, crunchy moms, silky moms…and the list can go on. Despite constantly feeling judged for what kind of mom I am by others, at the end of the day, we all want the same thing, what’s best for our children. We all mean well, we all share what we think is best, unsolicited or not. 😉 Mom tribes roll deep.
When I was pregnant with Em, I joined tons of pregnancy/motherhood forums on the Bump, Baby Center to name a couple. Through these forums, I was already forming a mom tribe of my own. Women I have never met came together to share their knowledge with other mothers and future mothers. They encouraged me, validated my fears and reaffirmed my confidence. Now at three years postpartum, I have added more mom tribes in my life; my pre-marriage friends who have become mothers of their own, my new friends whom I met because I am a mother, my mommy friends from Em’s school, my neighborhood mommy friends, and last but not least, my social media/blogging mommy friends. This amazing bond of motherhood takes us far, connecting women across the country, even across the oceans, becoming friends, cheering and encouraging one another on this tough journey of motherhood.
I met a friend, a mother, when I was pregnant with Em. We had mutual friends but have never met before. We were strangers for the most part. She messaged me via Instagram because she was also pregnant and is having a daughter two weeks after my due date. We connected. We shared our fears and joy of being a first time mom. Three years and three children later (she is a mom of two now!), we are still supportive of each other. A month ago, this dear friend and her adorable family visited and we were able to spend quality time together. I loved that we stayed up well beyond our bedtimes talking about our pastimes, present, future, motherhood, parenthood and everything in between. These friendships are formed because I am a mother. And for that I am grateful. Motherhood is amazing, mothers are extraordinary human beings, mom tribes are incredible. Mom tribes roll deep.
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